I don’t know how someone can be the average of the five people they spend the most time with. First of all, people aren’t numbers and can’t be added, subtracted, multiplied, or divided. We are not mathematical equations (life would probably be easier if problems could be solved with equations). I am who I am because of genetics and because of the things that happened to me throughout the course of my life. Those events shaped who I am and the experience of those events define my personality and how I react to things. Who I spend time with does have a little influence on the person I am, but it doesn’t make up the entirety of my being.
Enough of that philosophical bullshit, though, and on to the question at hand. The answer is easy, and likely short. I already spend time with the people I would like to spend time with. My family.
My wife, Superbitch, and my 3 boys Baby A, Baby B, and Baby C. Now I’m no math major, but that only adds up to four in my estimation. So the fifth person, and it sucks to have to choose between other loved ones, would have to be my brother, Revis Edgewater.
Hopefully the choice of my wife and kids is obvious and doesn’t need to be explained.
Duh! My family kicks ass!
The reason I chose Revis is because he is the most like me of all the other people I know. We have the same sense of humor, enjoy (mostly) the same things when it comes to entertainment (movies, books, video games, etc), and holds the same values that I do. We both love and would do anything for our families. We are almost the same damn person, really. It’s pretty cool.
When he and I are together it’s always a good time.
The party is always wherever we are.
I could not imagine my life without my wife, kids, and brother and quite frankly, I think my life wouldn’t be worth living without them. I don’t know if I am the average of those five people, or how to even calculate that if I was, but I can tritely say that they complete me. It sounds stupid, but it’s true.
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An average of five people? I have four kids so I’m pretty much screwed.
Haha. I’m almost there with you. I have three kids and a wife…so there’s four people I’m with all the time.
Question: You say you are who you are because of the things that happened to you throughout your life with only a minor influence around the people you interact with; but, wouldn’t all those things that happened to you include the people you met, the people you particpated in things with, the people that precipitated those events or were affected by them, the people you chose to spend your time with, the kids you decided to have, etc…? How did you learn to react to each of those life events if not by watching those around you experience them as well? You never saw someone growing up and were so in awe of them, because of what they did or who they were, that it changed the course of your life?
I also said genetics, but I see your point. Yes, my wife and kids have made an impact on the person I am today, but not entirely. Who I am is mostly defined by genetics. The intelligence, wit, sense of humor, anger issues, impatience, and work ethic were all inherited from my parents. I could hang out with the same people for all of eternity and those things would never change. However, the things in my past that I have learned from were mostly cause by people in my life, whether I wanted those people in my life or not.
Yes, genetics, it is hard to get away from those things. I’m still on the fence with the nature vs nurture argument (obviously both are important, but I haven’t ruled out entirely that nurture can override nature).
It’s 50/50. Sometimes it can, sometimes it can’t. It varies from person to person.
I’m trying right now to learn to rid myself of certain characteristics inherited from my father and having a tough go of it. But I’m making progress.
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Aw.. that is such an awesome and sweet blog. What wonderful things to say about your family. Smiles.
Thanks!
You are blessed to have your family and they are blessed to have you…full circle.
Well, I don’t know that anyone is blessed to have me, but thanks for the sentiment.
The person I’m with the most is my husband—the other 4 are friends, and I’d say they’re all fairly similar to me in sensibility, interests, humor, etc. I guess that’s why I hang out with them. I’m not actually that similar to my parents, but they don’t live near me so I don’t see them as often anyway. I like my Circle of Five, they make me happy.
Mine does, too.
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