I’ve taken a break from the Daily Prompts for a few days because, honestly, I’ve been in a bit of a funk and haven’t been inspired by them. Although Sunday’s was interesting and I may go back and do it. I just didn’t have a chance to do any blogging on Sunday. I feel especially bad for not doing it since I found out that my buddy Melanie suggested the topic. Shame on me. Bad form.
*sighs* Moving on…
I don’t know if there is such a thing as “happily ever after.” There’s always something. Some drama. Something to detract from happiness. A death. A separation. A divorce. A lost friend. Finding out your life has been a sham. Life is always throwing curves and handing out lemons. Why can’t life ever throw a nice, easy to hit fastball? Why can’t it hand you the lemonade, already made? Why is nothing ever fucking easy?
I am most definitely NOT living happily ever after and at this moment I have no idea how to get there. There are certain things I know I want. I want to be able to continue to provide for my children. I want stability in my life. After six months of raging turbulence I can’t really take much more. I need to settle down and focus on me and my children. I need to get back to enjoying my hobbies and doing things that make me happy instead of trying to please someone who will never, ever be pleased. I need to find a way to spend more time with the twins. They sometimes feel like strangers to me because of our current living arrangements and I, quite frankly, am pissed at myself because of that now.
I will be rectifying some of that very soon and will be spending more time with them. I’ll need to figure out the rest by trial and error.
I also need to figure out how to make myself happy. For my own sake. For the sake of my children. For the sake of my writing. I’ve written a lot of depressing shit lately and it’s kinda irritating me, but that’s how I feel right now.
Before I end this not so Unshitty™ post (which I guess would make it shitty), I’d just like to tell life to fuck off.
Double barrel fuck off.
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I hope some big can of happiness lands in your lap as soon as possible. You’re a good guy, Daddy, you deserve to be happy and share that feeling with your kids.
Ha! With my luck the can wouldn’t come with an opener…
Unfortunately, life does not easily provide us with “happily ever afters.” We just have to keep plugging away the best we can.
Yeah, I know. But I can dream, can’t I?
Sure you can! And those dreams are what keep us going.
Woohoo!!
How would anyone know what happily ever after was? It’s a concept that is just waiting to make people feel bad about their lives. It’s like saying let’s be happy all the time! That’s crud – people have to have ups and downs (and I do understand that sometimes things seem to be permanently going DOWN)…and like love songs (which I loathe) they give us an unrealistic goal for which we will never attain and thus feel like perpetual losers.
How about peace & serenity? How about coping with the situation we have and working on how to adjust to make changes or adapt? How about people stop always trying to ‘improve’ everything and just live in the now?
Um… I’m ranting, aren’t I?
I know there’s an argument for bettering our lives – I don’t deny it…but it seems that we are always having to change everything b/c we are suckage if we aren’t trying.
I actually agree with you. It seems like nothing is ever good enough. It doesn’t take much for me to be happy and/or content. But some people just want so much more than they have. And want it to just happen without working for it.
It’s a complex issue for sure. I’m really weary of ‘self help’… I like you as is, Twindaddy, don’t change.
Here’s some 80s music from INXS…
Brilliant! Couldn’t have said it better!
I wrote a piece on Tryst called ‘happily ever after!!’ I’d give u link here but I’m on my phone.. haven’t busted open my LT yet.. (use my search bar if interested) as always, I love the way you write!!
9500 ppl w/o power here now… things are crazy here… omg!!
Should you perhaps conserve your phone battery in case you need to call someone?
Yes.. I’m on my Laptop now.. I have set the phone down!! Good lookin out..
Lol. Goofy.
Who? You? …yes, goofy, maybe!!
No, you.
Yes, maybe a little..
Maybe? Little? Let’s be honest here…
Oh you’re lucky I’m trapped in my house right now!! Nah, jus playin.. Sillyness is a good thing, right? I appreciate the fact that I can entertain myself at times!!
Absolutely! It’s a great thing! The more silly, the more laughter. And laughter is the greatest.
Laughter is the very best medicine!! The very best!! It feels so good to laugh, doesn’t it?
Indeed.
Here’s my philosophy on happily ever after: unless you go through a ton of plot twists to get there, you don’t appreciate is as much. Own your struggle, I say. Your happy ending will only be that much sweeter if you do.
It* jeez.
Thanks, Katie. I do own my struggle, but every once in a while it gets me down and I hate that it does so.
Every mountain has its valley. Having a down day or two, or three, isn’t such a bad idea. It’s getting stuck there that is. You won’t. You recognize what’s happening, and you’ll bounce (just don’t stop the meds).
I haven’t, although I did accidentally forget to take them yesterday….
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I want to say something to make it all better. A wave of a magic wand, something, anything. But I can’t. All I can say is that I’m with you telling life to fuck off.
You are awesome, NBG. You really are. Don’t let anyone ever tell you different.
Thanks, SS. So are you, and you always will be
I have never doubted my awesomeness, it’s just tamed right now. Humbled by shitty events out of my control.
The SS Solution (aka, The Triple S): tell said shitty events to fuck off.
You know, I did that and they scoffed. Perhaps I’ll just hafta blast them.
Go for it. Afterwards, we can do an evil laugh mwhahaha
Okay, I’ll check back with you next week when I’ll have hopefully vanquished this wicket demon known as life. What a bitch, life.
I’ll be rooting for you
Me too, obviously.
It should say ‘Happily Ever After except for those occasional patches of sadness or sickness, anger or frustration, and fear and loneliness which pop up in everyone’s landscape from time to time.’ I really hope you can find a way to spend more time with your boys.
I will. It is my primary concern right now.
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I am sorry, I am there with you for different reasons. It took some effort for me to not write a very similar post today, which is pretty much all I write anymore. So I skipped the prompt today. Site stats be damned.
I am going to pretend your DBFO at the end is toward my life too, if that is cool.
Sure! You can use it any time!
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I wish I could help, but just know you have my moral support whenever you need it.
Thanks, Hook. It’ll take time, but I’ll be fine soon enough.
I know you will.
I don’t believe in Happily Ever After in the fairytale context. I think the best we can do is Happy as Possible. Hugs to you, brother.
I don’t either. There’s always SOMETHING.
Thank you, madame.
I feel like this mood is hovering over a lot of us lately. Life is always evolving at a faster rate than we can keep up with sometimes. Eventually you will get a few moments back in the lead. Just keep moving forward.
There is your Mr. Roger’s inspired comment for the day. ALSO: Happy YouTube Tuesday…
Yeah, I just realized what day it was and I just don’t feel like doing it today. Thanks, Becca.
Feel better man.
Thank you.
I’ll raise a glass to the double barrel fuck off
I figured you would. But you’ll kick life’s ass soon enough. I know you will.
So will you.
Perhaps. But that’s the idea.
I know there is always this great push, this desire and drive to please the people we love in this life. We want to provide for them and take care of them. But, I’ve found (and read in some books on the subject) that we need to take care of ourselves first – we need to make sure we are provided for (mentally, physically, emotionally) before we can be the provider we want to be for the rest of the people in our lives. So, I say throw yourself back into the hobbies you love, go in search of what you think would bring you back into the happiness fold, and because you are then enjoying things more, somehow, the rest of it will be easier – solutions will be there that weren’t there before, the energy and time will come back into sync, etc… Perhaps this is a naive view, perhaps it won’t work for everyone, but it won’t hurt to try will it?
Well, I kind of agree. If you aren’t happy you can’t make someone else happy. So that is the exact approach I’m going to take.
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I think “happily ever after” would be boring. I mean, every day where everything goes according to plan, and there’s no challenges or changes? Where’s the fun in that? Where’s the things that stretch you and help you grow as a person? OK, life might be pretty grim now, but you’re working on sorting it, and then you’ll be able to look back and feel pleased that you were able to sort the situation.
It would be wonderful to see a fairy story end “and they all lived happily ever after, at least, until the first child was born, when they were then introduced to sleepless nights and post-natal depression”.
Haha. I don’t think “happily ever after” exists so I’m not to overly concerned with trying to find it.
I’m still playing around with Sunday’s prompt as well – it would be interesting to see what you come up with!
Actually, I just finished it and it’s not very interesting at all. Oh well…
Throw it out here anyway – we might have an opinion sightly different from yours =)
I will, but it will be scheduled for tomorrow. I’ve already posted twice today. I’m proof-reading it now and will schedule it for just after midnight.
This euphoric version of happiness we are supposed to attain looks more to me like a symptom of mental illness. Most people don’t go around skipping and high fiving and swinging off lamp posts with maniacal smiles on their faces, and if they do it’s just straight up annoying. The fact that you spend time thinking about what kind of father you are and how you want to be makes you a good dad. Your circumstances are not ordinary to say the least, but you are doing your best despite multiple challenges. In my more bleak of moods I would say ‘what the fuck is the point? We’re all just going to die anyway!’ But in the mood I’m in today I’m saying if we get to the end of our lives and know that we loved and were loved, that we did the best with what we had and that the world is in some way better than we left it then we’ve probably lived as happy a life as it gets.
I have loved and been loved, so that’s something I guess.
yes that’s right! And your kids make the world a better place don’t they? So you’re leaving the world better than when you arrived here. All winning I reckon. Really happy people are annoying. End of story. Especially in the morning.
True.
It’s YouTube Tuesday there yes? (Wednesday here). Here’s one for you…
Now smile!
Happiness is overrated. Depression sucks. A happy medium is where it’s at. If you figure out how to get there, let me know.
I’m working on it. I’ll get back to you in the afterlife.
you can tweet it to us from there you know
That’s what I heard.
But when you get to the Happy (and you will), you can look back on now and see what you did to get there.
And then teach the twins to do teh same when they’re in a funk.
I hope so.
I’ve done all I can do: I gave you a Reese’s Peanut Butter Egg.
Hahaha! The cure for all depression.
Maybe not a cure, but helpful nonetheless. I know I feel better after I eat one.
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I know what you mean. Beyond whatever life circumstances you are going through, depression makes it worse. I’ve had people say it’s worse because it’s winter. There is something to that. Cold sucks. Except when you’re snowed in as we were the last two days. No work, woot. Well, except I was trapped w/ the things and well – there’s a post on it on Friday. We made a photo of Hoth cause we’re geeks.
If you want to talk more privately you have my email. Seriously. Feel better.
Thanks, Alice. I have plenty of ears and just need things to happen more quickly than they are. I’ll be okay.
Roseann Roseannadana was right — “It’s always something.” TwinDaddy, I am late to this post. But I agree with what a lot of your other buddies said, especially the advice to essentially put your oxygen mask on first. It’s good advice.
You will get there. And no life is perfect. We all just do the best we can. Go do something you love — have some fun. And find humor wherever you can.
Drop me a line if you want to chat. OR bitch.
Haha. I will, I feel like I’ve bitching too much, though.
Me too. Sounds like we need to turn our frowns upside down. And then puke.
I’ll pass on the puking part, thanks.
Ok but you don’t get out of the frown reversal part. I was just trying to let you keep your pride. (I have so little left)
I think I eschewed my pride when I started writing personal posts on this blog, don’t you?
I’m a big fan of the whole lemonade concept, except that your perspective is not happy to me.
I love your blog…please just don’t pee in my lemonade….pretty pretty please…?
Oh, alright.
Ah I feel your pain! Great post as always.
Thanks!!!
The happily ever after idea is just that, an idea. The concept leaves you running on that wheel to nowhere like a hamster. You took the first step by giving the idea the big F-off. Now it’s time to get happy. Since you already have a knack for writing I’m going to suggest you get yourself a notebook and write down one thing each day that you are grateful for each day. (stop rolling your eyes) I thought this was such BS until I did it. After 30 days you might be surprised by the results. I always keep you in a positive light Twin…I’m going to change the bulb and make it a little brighter.
Hmmm…I’ll try it. I didn’t roll my eyes. I’ve opened myself to a lot of new things in the past few months. Six months ago I probably would’ve told you that was an idiotic idea.
I have a request of you, though. I’ll be unbelievable busy the next few days and will probably forget about this. Do you think you could maybe remind me about this a week from now? Seriously.
Will do!
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