I have writer’s block again so I’m answering some more Dear Abby questions in the rudest way possible. Again. Yay for originality!
What do you think about a grandmother getting into a Jacuzzi with her 6-year-old granddaughter? This has caused a big rift in our family.
At a large recent family gathering, my daughter couldn’t accommodate all of us sleeping at her home, so some of us rented rooms at a nearby motel.
My son-in-law’s parents took my granddaughter “Charise” to their room to spend the night. The bathroom had a Jacuzzi tub in it, and Grandma and Charise bathed in it together. When they told my daughter about it the next day, she became upset because she thought it was inappropriate for an adult to be in the tub with her young daughter.
My daughter’s mother-in-law said she was not ashamed of her body and she refused to apologize to my daughter for what happened. My son-in-law has sided with his mother. What do you think? — SHOCKED IN CINCINNATI
Um, what’s the uproar about? They have the same parts. They’re related. They bathed and got clean. Unless there was inappropriate touching you are crying for no reason. I take my child into the shower with me. He’s only 1, but still. We both get clean. End of story.
Perhaps you should drink a hot cup of …..
I have a problem with my husband, “Howard.” I moved two hours away from my family, left my job and sold my house and car to be married to him. Now I feel trapped.
We have been married three years. It wasn’t like this in the beginning. I’m a housewife who takes care of his mother who lives with us (another story). I can’t go anywhere. I’m at home all day, every day, except when his mother needs to go to the doctor. He refuses to get another car because he’s “afraid” I’m going to meet someone else if I go out. I’m at my wits’ end.
Howard doesn’t like my friends — the three that I do have. He has taken church away from me because he believes a husband and wife should go to church together, and he doesn’t, therefore neither should I. He’s verbally abusive and manipulative. I feel I can’t do anything right, and he proclaims to be a perfectionist. Everything revolves around him and his likes, needs and wants.
This is a second marriage for both of us. He admits that he’s insecure. I love him, but I can’t take this anymore. I want to leave, but I don’t know how or where to begin. If I were to go home, I’d have nothing — no home, no car, no job or money.
We have no children together. What is your advice? — TRAPPED IN THE SOUTHWEST
This is going to be a lengthy response, so get a pen and paper and take some notes.
Ahem…..GET THE FUCK OUTTA THERE!!!!
Seriously, it sounds more like you are his slave than his wife. Why do you let him dictate to you how you live your life? This man is a jealous, abusive, and controlling bastard. Unless you like being dominated you’ll never be happy in this “relationship.” It also sounds like this guy might go nuts if you leave so I’d sneak out and head back to your family. If you tell him that you plan to leave him things might get ugly.
But run. Run as fast as you can. You’re better off starting a new life than continuing to live one as a slave.
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